Sean, that's funny. No, don't worry about offending me, especially when you are pointing out interesting things about language! It is interesting that the way people use "controversial" can reveal something about them. Now that I am thinking about it, I think it is like this:
If I assert that a particular practice is "controversial" when others see it as normal, it might reveal that I am opposed to it... but actually, I know that for me, the way I use the word "controversial" is always to refer to the fact that an issue is full of controversy. I mention that some issue is controversial in order to explain the role it plays in relation to whatever I am writing about. So, I have a clear purpose for describing something as controversial, and when there is a clear use for the word, it might be doing something other than subtly revealing a personal bias.
So, your scrutiny of people's use of that word is interesting, but it is an inexact science! :) If it was an exact science, you wouldn't have to wonder what my stance was on racial profiling, ha ha. The truth is, I think, that racial profiling is something that law enforcement and security officers can't help but use. We make associations as our methods of learning, and cops use their intuition as methods of getting stuff done. Put those two together, and you find yourself making little decisions all day long based on associations that don't necessarily mean anything. Personal associations are made about all sorts of things, but it is a touchy subject when people make associations involving skin-color. The associations we make are faulty, for sure, but we can't help it! So, I am certainly against racial profiling, in the same way that I am against any other discrimination, but I know that people can't help it!
Sorry for the rant.
Kevin, EssayForum.com