10/24/2012
Prof. Curl
Love Isn't Perfect
In a game of unequal competing actors, we can't expect to find a perfectly tailored significant other. Living in a world filled with unique people, seasoned through one of a kind experiences, it is virtually impossible to find a another individual that has evolved from the same experiences. A perfect relationship without hardships is impossible to find, and even if that once in a blue moon chance presents itself, the outcome will be collision. Despite our unobtainable socially constructed view of true love, our significant other will be imperfect, and we must see past the inevitable imperfections and accept the loved one for who they are.
Love is not a blind or perfect thing. We see the faults in our significant other. We accept them for who they are, and through that acceptance the self-esteem of the loved one grows to another level. Through the mutual love we become who we imagine ourselves to be. It validates us and gives us a sense of self worth. An ideal relationship should be a circle of giving and receiving, where your shortcomings are reinforced by their strengths. Not one that both members collide because they are equal in their strengths and weaknesses.
Having a relationship that both members are strong and weak in the same areas will either result in collision and unwanted competition, or a very vulnerable weakness. For example, if both people are outgoing and they go out to a social gathering, they will more than likely end up competing for attention. Both of their strengths are compromised and turns something that should be considered a strength into a weakness. Lets say both people are shy, neither of them will be able to muster up the courage to talk to anyone. They will be a very awkward couple, and their even weaknesses compounded into one giant Achilles heel. It just goes to show, even if we have the one in a million chance to meet our fairytale replica, we should avoid them for a better match. The more opposing traits they have, the greater the benefits will be.
True love should be looked for in a Yin-Yang kind of way. Instead of looking for a significant other with equal attributes, we should look for someone with an opposite set of strengths and weaknesses. If we search for love in that way, our downfalls are reinforced by their strengths, and those benefits will be mutual.
If lucky enough to find true love, it's inevitable that it will come with obstacles. But overcoming them will yield benefits that far outweigh the struggles endured. The outcome of being more secure in your self conscious qualities, will improve you in every way. Despite what society says, just because someone isn't exactly like you, doesn't mean that they are not compatible. In fact, the more they are like you, the more problems you will run into.
